Time for love and good sex

Lita Domino
Kunstner.dk in Aarhus

10 Good Habits for a Strong Relationship

Love. Sex. Money. Joy of Life. We all know what a good relationship is. And we know the bad experiences, too.

Here is a vitalogist list of the things that are good in a relationship.
Maybe you can't agree with everything on the list. But I guess you can recognize at least 7 out of 10 points.
Are you ready? Check your relationship.

1. You can do everything, and you don't have to do anything

There is so much I have to do in everyday life. Pay taxes. Work. Cook. Clean. Develop myself. Make a career and be successful.

In a good relationship, it's the other way around. You don't have to do anything, and you are free to do everything. When you and your partner disagree, you just have to talk about it. But the starting point is that you are free to be you.
Otherwise the relationship won't work.

2. Reveal yourself

There are many things we like, and some things we don't like. Since our partner is not a mind reader (we hope), we have to reveal what we like and what we don't like.

Use your body language and your sounds to reveal yourself when you have sex with your partner. It's nice to hear and feel what you like.

3. Your intention is crucial

When I touch my husband's body, it's my intention that is important.

There is no technique that can make me a super lover. My husband feels my intention. Whether I love him. Whether I am present. Why I do what I do?

4. You can get more of the good stuff in life

In a good relationship, it's Christmas Eve every day, all year round. You can get more of what feels good.
More kisses, more sex, more good conversations.
The good things in a relationship are free. You can get as much as you want.

5. You shouldn't be a service organ

Maybe you work somewhere where you have to provide service to customers, or show your boss that you're good.

In a good relationship, you shouldn't be a service organ for your partner. Sex and love shouldn't be a barter. Better to be selfish and always do what you think is nice.
It's good to love your partner because you yourself think it's nice to share your love, your body and your attention.

6. Share your thoughts and feelings

My husband loves to wash dishes by hand, it's his pleasure. As his woman, I'm happy about it. He does all the dish washing in the house.

But in a good relationship, we need a lot of conversations. We need to share our thoughts and our feelings with each other.
Otherwise we get lonely.

My husband and I need to remember to mow the lawn a little less, do the laundry and cleaning a little less, paint the carport a little less - and talk more about our thoughts and feelings.

7. Acknowledge your partner concretely

It's easy to say: "I love you". But your partner needs something more concrete.

Why do you love your partner?

What has your partner done that made you feel the love in your heart? Be specific.
"When you washed the dishes this morning, I was just so happy. Because I need us to have free space in the kitchen, and the kitchen table is clean. I love that you wash the dishes."

8. Social sustainability in a relationship

It is a good habit that there is room for both partners in a relationship. Maybe one has a very important job - let's say head nurse at a large hospital - and the other sits at home during the day and works online.

Make sure that both partners in the relationship contribute to a good and healthy home, where there is cleanliness and food on the table.

You are free to choose how to contribute, but remember that everything has a consequence.

9. Share your surplus

If you share your body with your partner, then also share your time and your money. Share everything equally. A good idea is to take the monthly income, pay your regular bills, and share the money that is left over.

Share your surplus. Never give anything to a relationship that you don't have in your fridge.

10. Check if the frozen water is solid, before you walk on it

In a relationship - where the partners share the profits with each other - there is financial savings. Money that you can invest in property, business or stocks.

It's good to check what it will be like to reduce your hours at work, save up, or invest, before you tie up your money. Try for 6 months to live at the financial level that will be your future level when you take a break or invest in a business.
Check if frozen water is solid to walk on, when you plan your future together.

You don't have to do anything, and you can do anything. Here are the 10 best tips for a relationship filled with love, sex, money and good mood.

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